In my world...
When I was with Hawke, he was teaching me his version of D/s... Didn't teach me much, actually.
How are R and I going to learn anything when neither of us know anything? LOL
I think D/s is an individual thing, obviously. Just about every D/s relationship is different, represents many different things. With us, so far, the D/s isn't being integrated a whole lot... We are still working on getting our marriage and family life back together. The D/s is always there, though, and it does help out... It sets up a sort of "tone", a bit more formal respect between us, I think. My trusting him like this has changed him, too, I think. He seems to be more sure of himself...
As far as the sex life goes, he loves to start our making love with warming my backside (almost as much as I love it!) I think, though, we are ready to move on to bigger and better things, more experimenting with other things.
We did make it over the whole financial hurdle that I was worried about. He gave in and gives me his check to put in the checking account to pay bills with, and I give him money from that account whenever he asks for it... I think he was afraid I wouldn't let him have any of it back without the third degree...LOL (He is a disaster with a checking account... he refuses to put his name on one again, which is a good thing!) We also have never used credit cards, for the same reason... he would have no self control..
I think that before we separated I was expecting him to fix everything that was wrong in my world... And not taking any of the responsibility myself. I also had no friends, not close to where we lived anyway, and I was too dependent on him for everything... I have grown past that, however, and everything that I see wrong I bring up to him, and if he helps me on it, great, if not, I go on and do it myself. This may be a totally simple concept, and everyone of you may be thinking "Duh!?" but I was raised by a woman who when she is in a relationship expects that man to be and do everything for her... And pouts and mopes when he doesn't. I thought it was normal. My mother can hold a grugde better than anyone I have ever seen... Still holding grudges from both her marriages, from her parents... Her first marriage has been over for 36 years, her second for 23 years, and her parents have been dead for 18 years! She wouldn't admit to this, of course, she doesn't see it.
Anyway... Things are looking up... And I think we're going to make it!
How are R and I going to learn anything when neither of us know anything? LOL
I think D/s is an individual thing, obviously. Just about every D/s relationship is different, represents many different things. With us, so far, the D/s isn't being integrated a whole lot... We are still working on getting our marriage and family life back together. The D/s is always there, though, and it does help out... It sets up a sort of "tone", a bit more formal respect between us, I think. My trusting him like this has changed him, too, I think. He seems to be more sure of himself...
As far as the sex life goes, he loves to start our making love with warming my backside (almost as much as I love it!) I think, though, we are ready to move on to bigger and better things, more experimenting with other things.
We did make it over the whole financial hurdle that I was worried about. He gave in and gives me his check to put in the checking account to pay bills with, and I give him money from that account whenever he asks for it... I think he was afraid I wouldn't let him have any of it back without the third degree...LOL (He is a disaster with a checking account... he refuses to put his name on one again, which is a good thing!) We also have never used credit cards, for the same reason... he would have no self control..
I think that before we separated I was expecting him to fix everything that was wrong in my world... And not taking any of the responsibility myself. I also had no friends, not close to where we lived anyway, and I was too dependent on him for everything... I have grown past that, however, and everything that I see wrong I bring up to him, and if he helps me on it, great, if not, I go on and do it myself. This may be a totally simple concept, and everyone of you may be thinking "Duh!?" but I was raised by a woman who when she is in a relationship expects that man to be and do everything for her... And pouts and mopes when he doesn't. I thought it was normal. My mother can hold a grugde better than anyone I have ever seen... Still holding grudges from both her marriages, from her parents... Her first marriage has been over for 36 years, her second for 23 years, and her parents have been dead for 18 years! She wouldn't admit to this, of course, she doesn't see it.
Anyway... Things are looking up... And I think we're going to make it!
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